At times I’m a bit lost working my Motherhood Mojo, I love being a mom ( ok !! not every single minute of it…there are times when I hide in the bathroom to get some quiet me time ) It takes hell lot of work and patience but for most part, motherhood is a phase I’m thoroughly enjoying. However, this post is not about me or motherhood.
This post is a little pat on the back for all the hands-on fathers I know who does an amazing job raising their kids. I know so many dads who are just as efficient as the mums in taking care of their little ones…sometimes even better. I know two such guys up close and personal who rock at being great dads. The very best, hands down is my dad of-course 😉 ( in my head I can now picture my husband thumping his chest…claiming he is the very best ! ) So truce ! 🙂
I love to celebrate fatherhood just as much as I celebrate motherhood…Being a father changes men in so many different ways…we often talk about the sacrifices a woman makes…though not as much as women, personally, I do think men make a lot of changes too to their lifestyle once a baby is on its way.
I, for one, was absolutely overwhelmed when my husband made time for each of my doctor’s appointments while we were expecting…I would always say I could manage it on my own and he didn’t have to leave his work behind but he was always there. Even during the delivery for that matter, he wanted to be there and be part of the entire journey, never left my side for a minute. And was mighty glad he was right beside me when our baby was born and that he got to cut the cord ( he was taken by surprise when the doc asked him if he would like to do the honors )
They often end up doing a lot of things they wouldn’t have enjoyed otherwise…My husband who does not like animated movies now happily watches cartoons and re-runs of Frozen along with our little girl. It’s rather endearing that he hums nursery rhymes in the shower than his fav tunes….was ready to give up his beast of a four-wheeler for a much family-friendly SUV. Since our baby co-sleeps with us, the guy who usually monopolized the whole bed now sleeps at the far end ( talk about Karma ). He does hundreds of little things which makes my life much easier because I know how hard it is to do things single-handedly when he is away on business trips. I’m beyond exhausted by the end of the day when he is not around.
Usually, when a woman becomes a mother and her chores multiply ten-folds it’s just considered conventional in the normal scheme of things…there is hardly ever any appreciation that comes with it for the kind of effort one simply puts in. Judgements are passed or literally showered when one becomes a mother, does things her way or dares to waver from the set rules. A kind gesture or word often goes a long way and lifts our spirits which is why I feel I should be appreciating all the fathers out there. Your contribution in raising the child means a lot and it’s invaluable…I don’t say it often enough to my husband for being the kind of dad he is to our daughter and how much I appreciate his hands-on approach…he’s never shied away from changing a diaper or failed to give me company during the initial sleepless nights just after the baby was born or any other responsibilities for that matter. My parents live close by and we could have really used their full support but my husband was particular that we learn to do everything on our own even if there is that initial struggle coping and being totally clueless at times.
Yes ! he does drive me up the wall and makes me want to kick his butt at times for ignoring some of my requests over and over again while he keeps nodding, staring at his phone or laptop. And I sometimes do feel like I’m raising two kids instead of one…He scares the hell out of me when he trains our kid to climb over stuff, there is always that dad streak ( I can totally relate to YouTube videos that show dads pulling all sorts of stupid stunts with their kids which no mother would ever do )
There is nothing superhuman and extraordinary in the things I’ve mentioned above because ultimately parenting is a team effort. It’s just that I want to thank each dad out there who never slacks away from being a good parent and for just simply being around to help. The little things matter because most often those are the things that make a lasting impression on your children as they grow. You are inevitably setting an example for them to follow. And automatically earn brownie points from your wifey too!
I know it’s not Father’s Day or anything, it’s just a shout-out to all you amazing fathers out there…please know that your love and thoughtfulness is appreciated every single day…do continue to work your charm and be the best you can be. You know we love you! <3